"Do you know why most people get money and lose it fast? Do you know why most people are drowning in debt? Do you know why being broke is so common? It is how you relate to the People In Your Life.
People In Your Life include all the people that you want to please. No matter what they tell you, we all want to please someone at some point in our lives. We all have a point to prove and emotional scores to settle. But at what cost? Why are you allowing yourself to be tricked into believing that your life revolves around the people who have access to your life? Why do you keep pleasing people who are not really pleased with you and whatever it is you do to please them?
* Who are these People In Your Life?
They are your friends
They are your family members/relatives
They are your colleagues
They are your lovers
They are your haters and critics.
These people are so in your life it is no longer you who lives but them who live through you. Every financial mistake you make is to get their stamp of approval, but at the end they forget everything you ever did to please them. The reason is simple: People In Your Life are hard to please. You can only please them temporarily. You stretch yourself financially because you want them to see your value but at the end you drown in debt and you eat from hand to mouth.
* How do you please the People In Your Life?
- You will no longer buy any clothes that you like (from Pep Stores) because the People In Your Life won't like them and actually cannot approve of such low-priced style. This forces you to go for what is pleasing to the People In Your Life, even if you can't really afford it given your budget of operation.
- You will not be seen dead in public transport or a second hand car that you can actually afford because the People In Your Life won't think it suits you to drive such a cheap hand-me-down-at-less-than-a-dime. This forces you to go for what is pleasing to the People In Your Life, even if you really can't afford the fuel on that machine they think is befitting for someone like you.
- You will not live in a cheap house or flat that suits your budget perfectly because when the People In Your Life visit they must be under the impression that you are living well. This means you will add some good-looking and expensive furniture so they can speak well of you these damn People In Your Life.
- You will no longer be seen drinking liquor in affordable quarts that normally cost R120 per case, but will go for restaurant dumpies and expensive bottles that took years to distill because this makes you look good among the People In Your Life.
- You will no longer enjoy watching people buy you or others food or drinks at Shisa Nyama, but you'll also start reaching deep into your pockets to ensure that everyone knows that you also have the money to take care of the People In Your Life.
- You will no longer allow your children to attend school at an affordable government school but will choke your budget paying thousands of Rands per month just so the People In Your Life know that you can also afford suburban education, even if your budget tells you that you can't afford it.
* What is the solution to dealing with the People In Your Life?
You are your own solution. The people are not a problem at all. Your clinging to them, despite the mistakes they sponsor in your life, is the problem. The question is, how do you solve you? Just love them from a distance. What good does it do you to keep people who don't appreciate your humble efforts? What good does it do you to keep people who put you under pressure to spend more than you can afford?"
*Summary of Chapter 9 (Loving The SUV): 12 Types of People to Love... From a Distance
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Kgoshii Lerabela
Author of 12 Types of People to Love… From a Distance (ISBN: 978-1-920655-18-1)
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